Pregnancy Loss
Thursday, March 19th, 2009We understand how devastating a pregancy loss is and want to offer support to you during this time. Losing a baby is especially difficult for couples who have struggled with infertility.
What to expect the next few weeks:
· Right now you may be in shock and feel tearful much of the time. This is normal.
· People tend to experience grief in stages. Expect that your feelings will change over time and that most people experiencing pregnancy loss feel similiar feelings.
· You may or may not want to talk to others about what has happened. Feel free to talk as much or as little as you are comfortable. You may want to let others know if you are up for talking.
· You, as a couple, may have different reactions to your loss. Be patient with one another. You will each have good days and bad days.
· Let others know if there are specific things that you need. People are looking for ways to help and you may benefit from giving them some responsibilbity now to ease your load.
· If you wish, you can name the baby or create memories that remind you of your baby. This can help you as you think or talk about your baby in the future.
There is a lot of information about healing following a pregnancy loss. If you feel up to reading, you may want to find a good book or go on the internet to find more helpful suggestions on dealing with your grief. It may also help to hear that there are other people who have shared a similiar experience.
We have an on-site counselor in the Grand Rapids office who can meet with you individually or as a couple free of charge. She is also available by phone if you are unable to come in person. Many of our patients find that it is helpful to talk to someone during this difficult time. Please call the Grand Rapids office (616-988-2229) to schedule an appointment if you would like.
Submitted by Kristin Blackwell, LMSW, counselor at the Fertility Center (March 2009)